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Beyond Survival: Addressing Trauma’s Impact on Learning in Foster Children

How often do we consider the invisible barriers that trauma erects in a child’s path to learning? For children in foster care, trauma isn’t just a word; it’s a lived experience that profoundly impacts their ability to acquire essential independent living skills. 

Sharon Dunlevy, a seasoned advocate in foster care and child welfare, brings this critical issue into focus. Her insights offer not just understanding but also practical ways for each of us to provide the intentional support these children desperately need.

The Hidden Hurdle: Trauma’s Deep Impact on Learning

Trauma, as Sharon explains, is not just an emotional or psychological hurdle. It’s a pervasive force that can stifle a child’s ability to learn basic life skills. The fight-or-flight response, often a result of traumatic experiences, can dominate these children’s lives, leaving little room for the development of skills like self-care, financial management, and emotional regulation.

Understanding Trauma’s Manifestations in Foster Children

It’s imperative to understand and recognize the signs of trauma in a child- especially if you are a foster parent or an educational provider working with a foster child. 

Here are some of the manifestations of trauma you may witness in the foster children you are supporting:

Emotional Regulation Difficulties: Traumatized children may struggle with managing emotions, making it challenging to handle the ups and downs of daily life.

Consider a child who has faced repeated upheavals in their living situations. This child might react disproportionately to minor frustrations, like a change in dinner plans, displaying sudden outbursts of anger or intense anxiety. Such emotional responses are not just behavioral issues; they are manifestations of a deeper struggle with trauma, making it challenging for the child to learn coping mechanisms essential for independent living.

Learning and Concentration Challenges: Trauma can impact cognitive functions, hindering a child’s ability to focus and absorb new information.

Trauma can manifest in the classroom as difficulty in maintaining focus. For example, a child who has experienced neglect might find it hard to concentrate on a math lesson because they’re preoccupied with worries about their safety or wellbeing. This chronic distraction can significantly impede their academic progress and hinder the development of critical thinking skills needed for adulthood.

Trust and Relationship Issues: Building healthy relationships is crucial for independent living, but trauma can lead to trust issues, complicating this process.

A child who has been let down by adults repeatedly may develop a deep-seated mistrust. This could be seen in their reluctance to engage in group activities or their hesitation to form close bonds with caregivers and teachers. Such trust issues can make it difficult for them to form the supportive relationships necessary for learning and personal development.

Delayed Social Skills: Often, children with trauma histories may exhibit social skills that are behind their peers, affecting their ability to navigate adult life successfully.

Imagine a child who has moved through multiple foster homes and schools. They may struggle to engage in age-appropriate social interactions, perhaps appearing withdrawn or overly aggressive. These social skill deficits, stemming from a lack of stable, long-term relationships, can make navigating adult social and professional environments particularly challenging.

The Role of Intentional Support: A Pathway to Healing and Learning

Sharon emphasizes that overcoming these barriers requires more than just traditional education; it necessitates intentional, trauma-informed support. This support can be multifaceted, including:

Specialized Educational Approaches: Tailoring learning methods to accommodate the unique needs of traumatized children.

These might involve individualized learning plans that accommodate a child’s unique needs, helping them catch up academically while considering their emotional and cognitive challenges.

Therapeutic Interventions: Professional support to help children process and heal from their trauma.

Professional therapy can provide a safe space for children to process their experiences, helping them develop emotional regulation skills and build trust.

Stable, Nurturing Environments: Consistency and security are crucial in helping these children feel safe enough to learn and grow.

Consistency in caregivers and educators can create a sense of security, allowing children to engage more openly in learning and social interactions.

Community Involvement: Engaging with local organizations and volunteer programs can provide additional layers of support and mentorship.

Programs like mentorship or after-school clubs can offer additional positive adult interactions, helping children practice and improve their social skills in a safe environment.

Hope and Guidance To Turn This Around

Sharon’s work in this field goes beyond advocacy; she’s a practical problem-solver. With her extensive academic background and hands-on experience, she bridges the gap between theory and practice. She offers not just awareness but also actionable strategies and resources for those looking to make a difference in the lives of foster children affected by trauma.

Your Role in Supporting Traumatized Foster Children

Are you ready to be part of the solution? Connect with Sharon for guidance, training, and resources. Visit her website and delve deeper into this topic on her blog. To directly contribute or seek advice, connect with Sharon on LinkedIn.

Together, we can create a world where every foster child, regardless of their past trauma, has the opportunity to learn, grow, and thrive as independent, successful adults.

Beyond Survival: Addressing Trauma's Impact on Learning in Foster Children

Photo Courtesy: Nicolette Moore

 

Published By: Aize Perez

Adriana Vela on ‘Brain Science for the Soul’: A Game-Changing Leadership Playbook for the Modern Era

Adriana Vela emerges as a dynamic force at the confluence of technology, entrepreneurship, and innovation. As the visionary founder of MarketTecNexus, LLC, she has spearheaded transformative initiatives, navigating the intricate landscape of strategic consultancy with precision. Adriana’s impact extends beyond the business realm; she is a recognized speaker and author, contributing thought leadership to the evolving dialogue on technology’s transformative role. With over two decades of experience, her commitment to staying ahead of industry trends highlights her visionary leadership. Adriana Vela’s journey is characterized by an unwavering dedication to excellence, positioning her as a trailblazer shaping the narrative of success in the dynamic landscape of technology-driven advancements.

Can you elaborate on the intersection of science, philosophy, and spirituality in your approach to improving the human condition?

In a similar fashion as when I was fascinated with technology convergence, curiosity about the intersection of science, philosophy, and spirituality took hold when I was fighting my way back from clinical depression after a car accident in 2014 that effectively knocked me off my rails. During this painful journey, I was surprised to discover the depth of what this experience taught me. Despite many successes and recognitions, I reflected on just how wrong I was about many of my thoughts and beliefs that drove my actions. I dissected different past situations and saw them in a new light. In the course of analyzing previous actions, I captured and learned lessons that I had missed. I was amazed at how wrong I was about many things. This level of reflection and introspection is a type of spirituality that went deeper than all my previous problem-solving deep thinking activity. This new knowledge feeds into the system of philosophical thought and is a cornerstone of wisdom and truth encouraged by critical thinking, reflection, and exploration. For me, science and technology provide the means through research findings and neuroscience-based tools to increase our understanding of the brain’s workings. During my ordeal, my brain was foggy, and it was not working for me. I wanted to regain my executive function and cognitive strength to make it work for me and not against me, and this intersection held the answers I described in the book.   

How do you personally integrate the principles you advocate into your own life, and what impact have they had on you?

Life always gives you another chance. It is called Tomorrow. Knowing this alleviates any pressure of having a day here or there where I could’ve done better or if I didn’t practice my principles every day. People waste so much time beating themselves up if they mess up and forget to be compassionate with themselves. Remaining present to your values and goals ensures you don’t fall asleep at the wheel and end up who knows where. The more you practice, the more you integrate and the easier it gets – just like breathing.

As a leader in your field, how has your background and expertise influenced the approach you took in crafting “11 Ways to Improve Your Human Condition”?

Having spent three decades tracking disruptive technologies and their impact on businesses and consumer behavior. My expertise in trends and disruptions led me to assess whether the pandemic would have a long tail, so I felt the urgency to do something. I had already started Brain Science For The Soul in 2019 but set it aside to focus on 11 Ways to Improve Your Human Condition. It was my way of metaphorically giving people a hug and showing them how to navigate emotions and the disruptive effects of the pandemic. I spend a good amount of time helping readers understand the pandemic as a global VUCA event defined as volatility, uncertainty, complexity, and ambiguity. I further break down the two primary drivers of VUCA as volatility – rapid, constant change, and complexity – a multiplicity of variables and unknowns. The side effects are uncertainty and ambiguity. Scientific research has shown that the brain’s primary function is predicting and constantly looking for patterns to determine what resources the body needs. However, when things change constantly, and the only certainty is uncertainty, the brain becomes frustrated and cannot perform its job. The effects of heightened emotions also hijack cognitive executive functions, further impacting our decision-making processes. From the start and even before the first case was identified in the U.S., I knew it would profoundly impact businesses and society despite many who thought it would go away in a couple of months. Leaders with highly developed agility and adaptability pivoted quickly and grew their businesses while other companies were destroyed.

You’ve also authored a new book, “Brain Science for the Soul – Time to Update Your Leadership Playbook.” Can you share a specific example or case study from the book that highlights the practical application of brain science principles in updating the leadership playbook?

When you consider the extent of changes in the expectations, demands, and market dynamics that pose new challenges that leaders grapple with, it makes sense that past leadership playbooks just don’t cut it and must be updated. For example, navigating disruptions is becoming an increasingly crucial challenge for CEOs. The first strategy for CEOs is to consider what I call ‘Transformation Readiness’, where they must first understand the pace and magnitude of disruptions that create a readiness paradox. That requires deep expertise to navigate uncertainty and solve complex problems outside their core knowledge and comfort zone.

Another core difference is that the days of setting a long-range strategic plan and then focusing on executing and staying the course are gone. Today, leaders require strong skills in agility and adaptability. Experience can carry you, but only if that experience is founded on quickly adapting to change and being able to anticipate it. Yet another different dynamic is the call for conscious capitalism. This is not about being ‘woke’. Research shows that 86% of people expect CEOs to lead and speak publicly on societal issues. I see a lot of hand-waving but not an authentic stance on social issues, undermining their efforts to engage and retain employees. Leaders with an ingrained notion that it is all about the bottom line and nothing else end up losing more than they gain. Especially if they came up the ranks learning that transparency is bad and that emotions are a sign of weakness and play no part in business. Yet, it has been proven that every decision we make is emotion-based. 

There is no judgment here, and I’m not an armchair quarterback, either. But I do know that being a leader today is exponentially more challenging than three decades ago. 

That’s why I developed solutions to address these leadership challenges, which open the door to addressing talent issues and setting the stage for building optimized teams. The result is measurable leadership excellence, decreased attrition cost, increased profitability, and significantly increased productivity, which builds an internal pipeline of next-generation leaders to fuel expansion. All of the concepts and strategies in the book aim to address the above challenges and reinforce what Ralph Nader said, “The function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers.”

For those who may be new to your work, what key message or takeaway do you hope they gain from your books and speaking engagements?

I’d love them to embrace the magic of seeing the relationship between the brain and the Soul and recognize the tremendous power we hold inside us. All we need to do is take steps to learn how to unearth and wield that power with game-changing concepts in my books and talks, including ‘Even the Strong Need Help,’ ‘The Confidence Myth,’ ‘Making Failure your Friend,’ ‘There is no such thing as good or bad emotions,’ ‘The Knowing-Doing Gap,’ and ‘Social Pain is Real Pain.’
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Published by: Aly Cinco

Transformative Wisdom for Women Leaders: Interview with Monique deMaio on Her Book ‘The 7 Secrets to Creating a Life You Love’

Explore the knowledge and motivation found in “The 7 Secrets to Creating a Life You Love: A Practical Guide for Women in Leadership,” written by renowned author Monique de Maio. Learn firsthand from Monique about her deep awareness of the difficulties experienced by women in leadership positions in the workplace and in striking a delicate balance between their personal and professional endeavors in this exclusive interview. This interview offers an engrossing look into Monique’s transformative approach to life and leadership. As the visionary founder and Chief Marketing Officer of On Demand CMO, she brings a wealth of experience, creative thinking, and a commitment to excellence that extends beyond her business endeavors.

In addition to sharing the useful advice found in her book, Monique’s engaging story illuminates her passion and mission to support women as they pursue leadership opportunities. This interview is a must-read for anyone looking for insightful information on both personal and professional growth since it reveals the nuances of Monique de Maio’s viewpoint on living a life full of fulfillment, success, and authenticity.

As the founder and CMO of On Demand CMO, can you share the philosophy that underpins your approach to marketing strategy?

Monique de Maio: For me, the most important thing for clients is differentiation. It is better to be different than better. You need to figure out what your company, your brand, and your services/products’ stand for’, and who they are intended for. We are predominantly a B2B (business-to-business) agency. Too many clients (from large Fortune 50 clients to mid-market 20+-year-old family-owned businesses to start-ups) try to sound, walk, and talk like their competitors and end up with market confusion and commoditizing their offerings. We spend a lot of time making sure the narrative, the story we create for these companies, comes across loud and clear, and we insist that the client works with us to find the ‘white space’ in their sector that they can claim and own—so they can attract their sweet spot customer and grow a profitable business. 

Can you discuss the role of self-discovery and personal growth in the context of the seven secrets outlined in your book, “The 7 Secrets to Creating a Life You Love?”

Monique de Maio: Self-discovery and personal growth are the exact objectives of the book and why I wrote it.

The seven secrets/areas of life I talk about are your: 

  1. voice …being your authentic self right now
  2. time…spending it intentionally
  3. choice …making each one, one at a time
  4. job…not letting it take over your life
  5. internal narratives…talk to yourself like a BFF
  6. external narratives…creating the story you tell others
  7. environment …using intention to set yourself up for success

And then the implementation of these secrets.

Your reviews highlight the approach of featuring stories from real women rather than celebrities. How did this storytelling method enhance your connection to the book’s content?

Monique de Maio: The book features real women because that is who I want to read it – real women. Those you know and see at work, at your kid’s ballgame, at the supermarket, at the PTA meeting, and everywhere in between. 

I want to change the narrative or perception that you have to be famous or rich to have a great life. You don’t. I have a great life, and I am neither. The amazing women who tell their stories are also neither.

It is said that storytelling will increase a person’s overall recall and the length of recall by up to 20x. By taking my point-of-view on the seven areas of life and showing you how these women and I have navigated these themes in our own lives through these stories, I can connect with the reader and have them ‘get it for themselves.’ They will see their lives in our collective stories and will appreciate that if we can master something, so can they. We are them.

  1. voice …being your authentic self right now
  2. time…spending it intentionally
  3. choice …making each one, one at a time
  4. job…not letting it take over your life
  5. internal narratives…talk to yourself like a BFF
  6. external narratives…creating the story you tell others
  7. environment …using intention to set yourself up for success

You share relatable personal experiences and stories from your life as well as other ‘everyday women.’ Can you share a particular story that you think many women experience and why?

Monique de Maio: I think the stories I tell about the sexism and double standard I faced as the only woman on the leadership team in my previous corporate career experience and my struggles with fertility are two very common and relatable stories that many can identify with. 

From the stories of other women in the book, I think the themes around not giving themselves grace, feeling overwhelmed by work, making bad choices, creating a narrative about themselves that did not serve them, not being their authentic selves, or not being intentional about time and choice are all themes we have all struggled with at one point or another, which is why I talk about them.

Or….

Page 71: In the ‘Choice’ Secret, I tell the story of my first day at school as a kindergartner and how I was treated as an immigrant. I decided, at that moment, to never be told who and what I could and could not do because someone told me I wasn’t good enough (in this case, to be with the other children/students in the neurotypical classroom).

Page 103: In the ‘Job’ Secret, I tell the story of how my male bosses applied a sexist and discriminatory position with me as the only female on the leadership team and was the impetus for me starting my own business.

Page 133: In the ‘Internal Narrative’ Secret, I tell the story of being in 3rd grade and being punched in the face by the class bully and how defending myself created a story that I carried with me long into my adulthood that I was tough and could take care of herself and could not ask anyone for help; that I had to do it all on my own. This story did not change until I decided to study mixed martial arts in my 40s and achieve black belt status.

 What advice do you have for readers who want to start implementing the seven secrets into their lives and leadership journeys?

Monique de Maio: Treat this like a reference book. It is meant to be read a little bit at a time, not cover to cover. It is the’ Cliff Notes’ or ‘Monarch Notes’ of life; in each chapter, each secret is digested, stories from me and 11 other women are told, as well as exercises for the reader to do to make sure that they ‘truly get it’ for themselves. 

I suggest not trying to do all seven things at one time but rather starting with the area that is creating the most friction/unhappiness in the reader’s life and starting there. Learn the distinctions I provide, internalize the stories and the exercises, allow time to make the tweaks you need to get better results in that area, and then move on to the next secret until they see a change in their overall joy and life.

Learn more about The 7 Secrets to Creating a Life You Love: A Practical Guide for Women in Leadership.

Published by: Martin De Juan